Negativity on Social Media (Plus Size, Big, Chunky)

  

    Let me start off by saying that I don't really care if you want to call me fat, big, chunky, obese or any other insult you may call me. I think the people who sit behind a computer and comment on a lot of girls who are plus sized telling them that they are not plus sized they are just fat, thinking it's okay to insult people based on their appearance. . . Well it is not! I think it's complete and utter crap that people use things like "Your putting yourself out there" "You have to take the heat" "Everyone is entitled to their own opinion" etc. to get away with insulting and degrading us. Last time I checked we are human beings just like you maybe with a bit more meat on our bones but still human. NO one under any circumstances has the right to put someone down just to bring themselves up. It is not right here, where you live, on Mars, or just about any where. As fat, heavy, or big as I might be I love myself more then these people, and I am 100% sure that a lot of you lovely plus size bloggers out there feel the same amount of confidence or even more then I do. Plus Size, Big, Chunky, etc.  people can be confident, beautiful, smart, fashionable, talented, sexy, outgoing, amazing, funny, hardworking, fun and many more things not just three letters that people like to categorize us to be as soon as they see our appearance. . . and that three lettered word is F A T. That three lettered word that we get thrown under, sometimes without even getting a chance to show you who we are not just what we look like on the outside.

       I felt the need to write about this because I really feel strongly about this and yes it might just be because I myself am fat, big, chunky, plus sized and I see enough FAT comments that I feel we get a say in this too. Just like the many people who sit behind their computers to comment trash on plus size girls, I can sit behind my computer and tell you one thing, "No matter how many comments you leave calling someone fat, obese, chunky, big you will never completely feel good about yourself, ever!" That's it I don't have to insult you, degrade you or put you down. Your comments are just words that many of us delete, block and move on from with the amazing amount of support we get from many beautiful women out there. It definitely is hard to put yourself out there, I will tell you from my own experience. It is very hard, but as time goes by for every 3 comments where you get called fat, ugly, chunky, or obese you get 30 even 40 where you have inspired someone, helped someone out, encouraged someone and for me all the supportive comments make those 3 comments become dust that get blown away to nothing. 

So with that being said my tips for those of you lovely ladies who are getting bullied by people calling you fat, obese, chunky I honestly will tell you that the best thing you can do is ignore and block even though that might not feel as good as responding back something that will make you feel better, just don't! It honestly does nothing because chances are that is what that person wants. Don't ever give them the time of day to make you upset or bring you down you are better then they are for the simple reason that you are putting yourself out there, you have the guts that they don't to put yourself out there with your head held high, which is not what we can say about that person. Even though they might feel high and mighty for judging and bullying you when they send you that comment that high goes away quickly and they are back to looking for someone else to pick on and that's how they continue to live. So I ask you who is really winning??? If I must say so myself we are and that's just the bottom line!

 If you are being bullied just know that is does get better, I know a lot of people say this but from someone who has been bullied all her life for being fat, not pretty, having acne, and being gay I can tell you that is does get better. Even if you feel like giving up and just not trying any more just hold on please don't give up because when things get better it's so much more rewarding to know that you were brave enough to go through it all and still be standing stronger then ever!!!

Always remember to be

Be Bold, Be Confident, Be You

xoxo

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